Overcoming difficulties by positive and proactive thinking, is it truth or hype?
You will find your answer in my blog post if you read on with an open mind for finding a way to make life easier! Difficulties are part of life … That is a truth, right? But what about the hype? Is there a prescription that can be used by everyone? The sooner of later, every person will face difficulties as, sadness, pain, sorrow, loss. But how to deal with it? There is a solution … This is what I learned about overcoming difficulties by positive and proactive thinking.
Lets Travel Back In Time For Finding Answers
My personal journey to the truth goes way back in my own family history…
I remember that my schoolteacher once gave me a grade for “laughing” and being a happy and positive kid. I was about 11 years old.
Although I had a lot on my mind and had to overcome huge difficulties at home, somehow I was blessed with a happy character. Or was it an ability for positive and proactive thinking?
My parents’ marriage was tensed and they struggled finding balance together. From time to time, there was a lot of shouting, tears, frustration and anger at home, around me.
Part of the unbalance marriage was due to my moms depressions and her feelings of insecurity. The roots of my moms sorrow went back a long time to her childhood ….
She never overcame losing her dad in the second World War:
my grandfather was taken away by German soldiers and was finally sent to Auschwitz, a destroying camp for Jewish people, like my grandfather.
Her mom, my grandmother, married to another man after the war, who already had 4 children. And they didn’t got along well with my mom and her sister. My mom’s childhood was not happy seeing her mother being dominated by her new husband. And regularly, he punished my grandmother with a painful hit in the face, in front of the children.
Not being able to get over this, the marriage of my parents became tensed.
What I’ve Learned, What You Can learn
I learned at a young age to find a solution for serious difficulties, like for my almost divorcing parents and a mother that didn’t want to live any more from time to time.
…. Somehow my mind was always my best friend and it always whispered solutions, how weird that may sound!
I never ever gave up, found ways that made me feel happy. When I felt sad I didn’t sad down in despair, but went out to take action and searched for activities that made me feel better. Like positive brain fuel.
I was blessed with finding a lot of friends and hobbies.
And somehow, I always knew that one day I would be able to look back on overcoming my difficulties that I was facing that time.
Now I can say: “I DID!”
And this can be done by you as well. But you need to tap into the right resources, find the right books to read, audio’s to listen to.
-Are you still with me here?
One key for making life easier is personal development!
-Please continue reading …….
How Everything Will Fall Into Place
I started to read personal development books, like “The 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People” , by Stephen R. Covey.
And in there I discovered how overcoming difficulties can create new personal strengths! Understanding this process, now enables me to teach others how to overcome difficulties by positive and proactive thinking.
I discovered that being part of a family tragedy, I learned as a very young girl to think Proactive: One of the 7 Habits, mentioned in this book. Which means more than merely taking initiative.
Let me explain what Proactive Thinking means and how it can help you make your life easier.
–Ready? Here it comes ….
Pro-activity and Reactivity, Explained
~ by Stephen R. Covey
It means that as human beings we are responsible for our own lives. Our behavior is a function of our decisions, not our conditions. We can subordinate feelings to values. We have the initiative and the responsibility to make things happen”. Look at the word “responsibility” – “response – ability”- the ability to response. Highly pro-active people recognize that responsibility. They do not blame circumstances, conditions, or conditioning their behavior. Their behavior is a product of their own conscious choice, based on values, rather than a product of their conditions, base don feeling.
Reactive people are often affected by their physical environment: If the weather is good they feel good. I it isn’t, it affects their attitude and their performance. Proactive people carry their own weather with them. Whether is rains or shines, makes no difference to them.
Step Into Your Power
Feeling sad never solved my childhood difficulties- it was beyond my powers as a kid, because it were my parents’ problems –
By creating situations that would make me feel happy, like spending time with my friends, sports, and work hard and create good results in school and helping others,
I practiced pro-activity! I decided to find happiness. I took responsibility for my feelings.
THAT overcame my difficulties in life! And can be done by you.
It’s a understandable, BUT in my opinion a weak mindset to say that you always have to “go with the flow”.
Without taking course of the direction in a situation where you face difficulties, life will live you! I found out that you will be easily victim of problems and difficulties doing that.
Flipping the situation over by pro-activity, I’m positive that you will be able to change the direction of your life!
What my mom couldn’t do, I learned! That changed my kids future, it saved my marriage. It makes me a happy person, a better mom and lover. It makes me a much nicer person to share our planet with :-).
My early learned life lessons thought me that holding on to positive thoughts, taking action with pro-activity, I’m able to take be in charge of the direction of my life and my beloved ones.
And it is such a wonderful feeling that by writing down my personal history, others can learn from what it gave me.
It’s my mission to show other individuals the way …
overcoming difficulties by positive and proactive thinking.
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