Procrastination, your biggest enemy.
You know that feeling, that feeling of when you know that you have to do something, but you are not doing it.
It looks like your whole body is resisting.
For the last couple of days, I have been reading “Think and Grow rich” from Napoleon Hill, witch by the way I highly recommend to read.
He talks about the power of thoughts and that the one thing you have control of in your life are your those thoughts.
Don’t you find it a tricky thing, your thoughts?
Before I started reading all the personal development books it never occurred to me that you actually are able to influence to own thoughts.
Did you know that your mind can’t see the difference between what is real and what’s not? That is why it is so important when you want something in live you have to visualize the outcome of your goals every day and you’ll see that you will start to believe. But more important that you’ll be able to see the opportunity’s that are leading towards your goal.
I tried it with this simple exercise. I felt a little bit sad last week, I don’t know why, just for no reason. But in order for to get things done, it is a lot easier if you are in a happy state of mind, right?
So what I did was looking into a mirror and I started to laugh! And I kept doing that for as long as it was necessary for me to be feeling happy again 🙂
I tricked my mind. I was sad for no reason and after the laughing session I felt happy as one can be. You should try this, it’s really fun.
So if this possible, what else is?
As I announce in the tittle of this article, we would talk about reasons why people do not succeed.
This can be in their personal life.
This can by in their business.
This can be in all parts of your life.
The reason why people do not succeed is because the allow their thoughts to influence them. It’s a matter of
“do your thoughts control you or do you control your thoughts?”
One thing that all people who do not succeed have in common. They all know the reasons why they did NOT succeed. They know all the reasons for their failure and come with all these alibi’s for why they didn’t.
In this book of Think and Grow rich, there is a list of 57 excuses/reasons that people use for when they didn’t do something and keep procrastinating.
I read them all and so many of them I recognize. I hear other people use them so often.
Not that I’m perfect….but if you look closely to all these alibi’s you will notice that they are all “outside” excuses. They don’t have anything to do with the person itself.
It’s always because of some one or something else.
The fact that you are reading my blog makes you different. You search online for ways to escape these alibi’s.
And if not…It’s never to late
You know, mind control is not easy. It’s the result of a lot of self-discipline and it must become a habit. And as I said before you either control your mind or it controls you.
There is nothing in between. You can’t say that you have only half control over you own thoughts!
How do we control the mind
If you have ever practiced meditation ( I practice Vipassana meditiation, your can read here how that changed my live and helped my on my journey towards success) you know how your mind keeps playing tricks with you.
With Vipassanna meditation you close your eye’s and focus on your breathing and the sensations on your body. Your only task is to observe. But somehow your mind keeps wandering of and you have to force your mind to go back and focus ones more.
This will repeat itself again and again.
So, the most practical of all the methods you can think of is the habit of keeping your mind busy with a definite purpose which is back by a definite plan.
According to Napoleon Hill:
“Study the record of any man who achieves noteworthy success, and you will observe that he has control over his own mind, moreover, that he exercises that control and directs it toward the attainment of definite objectives. Without this control, success is not possible”
The following list of famous alibis comes straight out the the book “Think and Grow Rich” from mister Hill.
These are the reasons or alibis people use to justify themselves towards others but most certain also towards themselves.
Do you recognize them? did you hear others, or maybe even yourself say them?
I know I have.
But I have to say to from early age on I came to the conclusion that you are responsible for your own actions and therefor also for your own thoughts.
IF I didn’t have a wife and family . . .
IF I had enough “pull” . . .
IF I had money . . .
IF I had a good education . . .
IF I could get a job . . .
IF I had good health . . .
IF I only had time . . .
IF times were better . . .
IF other people understood me . . .
IF conditions around me were only different . . .
IF I could live my life over again . . .
IF I did not fear what “THEY” would say . . .
IF I had been given a chance . . .
IF I now had a chance . . .
IF other people didn’t “have it in for me” . . .
IF nothing happens to stop me . . .
IF I were only younger . . .
IF I could only do what I want . . .
IF I had been born rich . . .
IF I could meet “the right people” . . .
IF I had the talent that some people have . . .
IF I dared assert myself . . .
IF I only had embraced past opportunities . . .
IF people didn’t get on my nerves . . .
IF I didn’t have to keep house and look after the children . . .
IF I could save some money . . .
IF the boss only appreciated me . . .
IF I only had somebody to help me . . .
IF my family understood me . . .
IF I lived in a big city . . .
IF I could just get started . . .
IF I were only free . . .
IF I had the personality of some people . . .
IF I were not so fat . . .
IF my talents were known . . .
IF I could just get a “break” . . .
IF I could only get out of debt . . .
IF I hadn’t failed . . .
IF I only knew how . . .
IF everybody didn’t oppose me . . .
IF I didn’t have so many worries . . .
IF I could marry the right person . . .
IF people weren’t so dumb . . .
IF my family were not so extravagant . . .
IF I were sure of myself . . .
IF luck were not against me . . .
IF I had not been born under the wrong star . . .
IF it were not true that “what is to be will be” . . .
IF I did not have to work so hard . . .
IF I hadn’t lost my money . . .
IF I lived in a different neighborhood . . .
IF I didn’t have a “past” . . .
IF I only had a business of my own . . .
IF other people would only listen to me . . .
IF – and this is the greatest of them all – I had the courage to see myself as I really
am, I would find out what is wrong with me, and correct it, then I might have a
chance to profit by my mistakes and learn something from the experience of others, for I know that there is something WRONG with me, or I would now be where
I WOULD HAVE BEEN IF I had spent more time analyzing my weaknesses, and
less time building alibis to cover them.
Have heard people say them out loud? I know I have.
Look, success is something different for everybody, but in the western world ( and everywhere else) success is measured in terms of money.
On of mans biggest fear is the fear of poverty. Not being able to provide for yourself and your loved ones. We are all in pursuit of money, because we know that it will bring happiness.
And maybe the people who do not pursuit money and live a hippie lifestyle soon figure out that all the healthy and biologic food is way to expensive for them so in order to maintain that lifestyle the need to make more money.
Why using these alibis
If you think of it….The reason why people are using these alibis is because they are not happy with where they are now.
But in the same time they are comfortable.
And that is your biggest success killer 🙂
Your not happy, but it is oké….
Sometimes drastic things need to happen first before people get out of their comfort zone.
It like you have being forced out of your comfort zone.
The reason why I started to think differently and to start to get into the habit of controlling my mind, was when I hit bankruptcy in 2013.
I made a very bad decision business wise. I owned a restaurant and I thought it was a very good idea to buy another one.
Why? because I thought back then that if I worked harder I would get rich.
Now I think, how dumb can you be right.
There weren’t enough hours in a week and it was a bit to much, so to say.
Within 7 months the business was bankrupt. To make a long story short (read the longer story here) the other restaurant was saved in the end by 2 investors. But I was broke, financially back five years before.
I even went to social services!
I started to think….I always have been in the situation of not having money.
I wanted more for my family, for me and for everybody around me.
I knew that I had to work smarter and not harder.
But I am brought up in a way that you have to work hard and in my case hard for little…
I always had money problems / stress.
I knew if I wanted things to change, I had to change. I had to learn to control my thought and direct them in a different direction.
My goal is for our family to go on holiday, every school holiday. To have a life without financially worries or stress. To be there for our kids and to do what we want to do.
I visualize my goals every day and I just know that it will happen, because I believe in it for it to be possible. I tell myself this everyday.
Controlling your thoughts is of course not enough. In order to succeed you have to take action.
But one thing….NO MORE RESTAURANTS! We still have one, witch is run by a good team of staff.
We automated the business and the place runs itself. We only have adjudge once in a while
But during the bankruptcy of the other business, it wasn’t clear wether or not the first restaurant would survive.
So I had to change my way of thinking and look for other business opportunities I could start without a lot of money.
I started looking online and I found a lot of crap 🙂
I didn’t have any experience, hens I came out of the restaurant business!
But now a year later I make my money online, how? and Why?
Because I changed my way of thinking. I opened myself towards the thought of making money online.
How did we started making money online? With blogging.
Writing about the things I like.
So, if you want to succeed, you must stop blaming others fore your failure.
Failure doesn’t exist only lessons do.
But that failure you always will bring to something better.
And that the combination of controlling your thoughts and taking massive action will bring you any where you like.
A last few tips:
- Read daily
- Listen to motivational audios every day.
- Write down clearly what your goals are, where you see yourself in a period of time and read them out loud every day.
This way you will trick your mind and control your thought.
Do this in combination with meditation and you’ll bound to be successful.
If you want to know what saved us and how we survived the bankruptcy and how we are now making money online and live the life we had always visualized. I suggest you check this out
Can you think of any more alibis? Let me know in the comment box below