Since I decided that somethings had to change the phenomenon of personal growth keep crossing my path. No I know why, things can’t change but you can! So? What’s the deal with all this personal growth and self development business? And why bother in the first place?
It’s so easy to treat personal development as ‘optional’ and so few people ever take the time to actively improve themselves. But I think that personal growth and self development is arguably one of the most important thing you can do with your time. Maybe it is even the purpose of being here on this planet.
I mean if you look at it, all your actions are geared towards ‘self improvement’. Everything you do, you do with a positive intent. Of course most of use do this unconscious and for the majority of people it’s a case of pursuing ‘things’ and ‘stuff’ with the (all to common) assumption that when they get enough stuff they will be happy. But only to find out that that is one big illusion.
The key to a lifetime of happiness lies in personal growth. Real and lasting fulfillment in life comes from consistently improving the quality of your life. Life is dynamic and it has to keep moving. And like in nature, everything that does not grow, dies! You will either grow or die, and although you probably won’t die a physical death, but you most certainly will suffer a mental death!
you don’t have to do anything special because, every day life hands us opportunities for personal growth. They are mostly disguised as problems and unfortunately most people curse them instead of seeing the wonderful opportunities that they present. You learn from your mistakes! period! Because this is where personal growth comes around the corner. So I can only say embrace your mistakes.
So why do so many people fail to work on their own personal growth? That is because there are certain personal growth barriers that prevent you from growing. There are a lot of barriers I can think of but I will just name the three most important ones.
Personal Growth Barrier #1: Putting things off
A beautiful word for putting things off is rocrastination.
Rationally we know that if we want a specific result we have to take action, but somehow we don’t. We even can get frustrated about it! Because you know that if you do the thing you know you have to do, you’ll benefit!
Personal Growth Barrier #2: Indecision
Every single action starts by making a decision!
The next sentence I came across on the internet :The ancestor to every action is a decision and the failure to act can be traced back to the failure to make decisions.
But the ironic thing is that not making a decision is a decision – isn’t it? So hwho are you fooling? Indecision is in my eyes the first thing that you have to ban from your life. Indecision is simply the result of a fear of failure and by not making a decision you can’t fail – right?
But remember this: If you don’t make the decisions you won’t take the actions and you will remain immobilized.
Personal Growth Barrier #3: Comfort Zones
Your comfort zone is that warm bath, that save place that you know so well and all those things that you are too familiar with. Inside your comfort zone everything is known and you have this sense of certainty that you can comfortably deal with anything that comes your way. You’ve done it before and you feel ‘at ease’ with it. Stepping outside your comfort zones challenge your beliefs and it challenges your perceptions. Stepping outside your comfort zones however, challenges you to grow as a person – you have to grow to get comfortable outside your old comfort zone. Most of your limitations are created by yourself and controlled by your beliefs about what you can or cannot do, what you like or dislike, what you think is right or wrong.
All barriers are only that – they are barriers. So are the barriers to your personal growth. They can stop you, but they can’t keep you unless you allow them to. So make a decision and simply acknowledge them and then move on. Personal growth is a choice and it’s an active process.
What I find an inspiring book is “awake the giant within” from Anthony Robbins, I can definitely recommend it.
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